Should You Adopt Her Kids?
There are plenty of good adoptive dads, but there are many disillusioned adoptive dads. How would I know that? The divorce rate is more than two in five, probably closer to 50%. Many of those are second marriages, with kids. If you think that dealing with your own kids during teen years is a challenge, just try disciplining somebody else’s children!
Some guys adopt the kids after years of creating warm relationships with them, but others adopt early on, while their judgment is still blurred by lust for the kids’ mother. Such a man is not thinking straight – he is not realising that divorcing somebody married in haste is traumatic but not impossible, whereas canceling an adoption is close to impossible.
Imagine finding yourself in a nightmare of a marriage, then discovering that you have a liability for life! It happens; the duty to maintain children, whether they are you own or adopted, lives on, irrespective of the success or otherwise of the marriage. That’s fine if you are the biological father, but dreadful if the marriage was driven by desire and short-lived.
You can be a wonderful father to your blended family without committing to the duty for life. In fact, your position might be better if the rebellious child is not in a sufficiently powerful position to torture you beyond the grave of your marriage. Think before you ink – marriage is temporary, but adoption is forever.
5 March 2018
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