Life is all about relationships. We have relationships of many kinds – close family, friends, neighbours, business associates or partners, sports team mates, tribe, community, or nation.
They comfort us, nurture us, inspire us, give us something to live and work for. That’s the positive message. The bad news is the other side of the coin; if your important relationships – or any of them – go wrong, your life or your business (or both) can go from heaven to hell in a flash.
Our most important relationships rest on legal foundations – parents, spouses, partners, business or social ties. Each is governed by legal rules, each has a legal framework, rules of law that govern them and legal consequences when the relationships go wrong, when conflict erupts.
Then the lawyers get involved. But things often get worse, when the lawyers get involved. Why? Because they overlook, or actively ignore, the fact that the real drivers within relationships are feelings and emotions that do not follow the rules of law.
Trying to solve a relationship problem without taking note of, and strategising for, the human side, the emotions, is like trying to stop a dogfight with your bare hands. Blood will flow and the real reason for the conflict will be forgotten in the trauma that follows.
This is why we at Roger Knowles Attorneys embrace mediation and other people-centric methods of approaching conflict. We try to assess the root cause of conflict and we bring other professionals into the team when we need them, to help us to understand the people and their differences, their personal wants and needs.
We and our colleagues in other professions – social workers, psychologists, counsellors and coaches – work together to help you, our client, to achieve a solution to the various problems you are facing. Quickly. With as little damage and expense as can reasonably be expected.
The alternative is litigation. Litigation leads to antagonism, time and expense. It can be – and usually is – destructive.
Don’t take the ‘legal’ route of litigation until you have tried the other route – the people-centered route.