COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE – DOING IT TOGETHER
The words, ‘collaborative divorce’ look like a contradiction. They imply that the divorcing couple will work together, at a time when they can no longer stand to live with one another. It seems odd. Divorce is usually characterised by anger, blaming, and impossibility to communicate with one another, so how can the couple possibly work together? And, why should they?
Strange though it may seem, collaborative divorce definitely works.
The process is well established in other countries, even being entrenched in laws that regulate how it operates. Many professionals, not merely lawyers, are collaborative practitioners.
A divorce resolved in this way is simpler, faster and less expensive (by a very long way) than the usual bitter conflict of the court (litigation) process. Collaboration involves respect, co-operation and enables the parties to “do it themselves”, in terms of reaching agreement on the issues. This engenders a measure of satisfaction and respect, particularly self-respect. It makes future co-operation for parents much easier, as it lays the groundwork for a different, but ongoing, relationship between them. In this way, it works towards the best interests of the children.